How to Know if a Girl Wants a Second Date

Sometimes, it’s hard to tell if a woman is interested in you. You might think your first date went well. She might have even said she’d like to see you again, but then she ghosts… what gives?

This might be confusing and frustrating for most men, but knowing if a woman wants another date doesn’t have to end up being a guessing game. Here are signs you can look out for on the first date that might mean she wants to see you again (or not).

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Ways to Know a Girl Wants a Second Date

Here are seven solid indications that a woman is interested in you and would like to see you again:

1. She smiles at you a lot

When your date is really into you, she will look at you a lot during the date. But not with an unhappy or forced look—with a relaxed and happy smile. She will smile at you willingly and genuinely, without forcing herself to. Smiling shows interest and attraction, so if she’s grinning from ear to ear at you from across the table, this is a good thing!

2. She laughs at your jokes

Another way to tell if she likes you and wants to see you again is if she laughs at your jokes. If you’re telling a funny story and she’s laughing at it, that’s a great indicator that she’s interested in you. Sharing a laugh builds a bond between you, so if she laughs at something you say, she’s probably interested in being in your company again.

3. She’s interested in your life

If she’s curious about your work, interests, and hobbies on the date, then she might be interested in you. She’ll want to hear the answers to all her questions and follow up with more inquiries. She’s showing genuine interest in what you have to say, so follow up with some questions of your own. She will share things with you—like how many siblings she has, where she went to school, or something else personal—so be sure to reciprocate by sharing your own personal facts. After all, the first date is about both of you getting to know one another.

4. She brings up the future

When she talks about things in the future, like your next date or what you’re going to do together, then she’s most likely keen on you. While it might be a little early to talk about the future on a first date, she’s showing that she’s interested in trying to make something happen with you. Making future plans together is a sure sign she wants you in her life.

5. Her body language is open

When you’re talking, her body language will look relaxed. She’ll be open and engaging with her arms. Additionally, she may lean in towards you when speaking if she feels comfortable with you. This is a sign that she’s really into you and wants to have another date.

6. She initiates physical contact

This is a surefire way of knowing if a woman wants another date with you. If she touches your arm at the table, hugs you while on the date, then she’s into you. Physical contact is a great way to show affection and attraction, so if she’s touching you, she’s probably hoping for another outing together.

7. She has incredible energy

If she’s energetic, it’s a good sign that means she’s into you.  She will speak passionately about her favorite parts of the date to you and laugh easily. She won’t be shy or awkward—she’ll be confident, and her energy will show it.  If she makes an effort and puts herself out there, then she definitely wants to see you again.

If you can spot the above eight things on your first date with a woman, then you can be sure you probably interest her. 

How You Know When a Girl Does NOT Want a Second Date

On the other hand, if you notice any of the following signs, then she probably wants to call it quits:

1. She starts texting or looking at her phone while you’re talking

While on your date, if she’s constantly paying attention to her phone, she could be uninterested.  This is a sign that she doesn’t want to be there and would rather text or check her phone.

2. She shows no interest in your life

If she doesn’t ask about your work or hobbies during the date, then she might not want to move forward with you. If she’s not actively engaged in the conversation, it likely means she’s not concerned about knowing more about your life. 

3. She has closed body language

She’ll cross her arms and legs, positioning herself away from you during the date. If she’s looking down or away when you’re talking, then it might mean she’s not interested. This is a sign that she’s not interested in you and wants to keep her distance from you.

4. She says she’s not ready for a relationship

A woman who doesn’t want to see you again will imply that she’s not ready for a relationship. She’ll say things like, “I’m really busy right now,” or “Maybe when I’m not as busy.” If she says these things, then it’s a definite sign that she doesn’t want to see you again.

5. She makes an excuse to leave

If she brings up finishing her chores or having somewhere else to be, then it’s a sign that she’s not interested. She’ll come up with any excuse to leave, even if it’s fake. This is a strong message that it’s not going to work.

If You Really Can’t Tell, Just Ask 

It might always be so simple to know when a girl wants to go on a second date with you. It’s possible that she is more on the shy side. Or maybe she is not used to being on a date with someone she has never met before. 

If you’re not sure even after the first date if she would like to see you again, the best thing to do is simply ask her for another date. You can send her a message after the date is over to ask her out on another date. If she says no or seems unenthusiastic about it, it might be time to move on. Never waste your time or chase after someone who makes it clear that they don’t want to see you again. 

But if she says yes and seems excited about meeting up with you again, then you’re in luck!